As you pick up your loved one from the doctor or hospital, you are without doubt given a plethora of leaflets, instructions, care books, and in some of them you are certain to find very specific orders with respect to times medication must be administered, the amount of time that needs to elapse before eating after taking medication but before taking another kind, how to time the various at home exercises your loved one needs to undergo, and most likely a host of other items that are going to place a serious demand on your schedule.
It is not until you have had a chance to work with the schedule and familiarize yourself with your loved ones reactions to the various medications and exercise routines that you can actually hope to get into a unique rhythm of your own.
Total Care Schedules
Undoubtedly you are going to have to set up a schedule not only for yourself but also for your loved one. That said, you and your patients attitude toward this schedule will determine in large part if it is going to present a burden or instead a useful tool in the overall care. One item that should not be missing from this schedule is respite care.
At the onset you might not believe that you need it, but given time, the odds are good that you will find the need becoming a pressing urgency. At that time the temporary respite care available from volunteers may no longer be sufficient to help you recover your own enjoyment of life and also repair any fissures in the relationship with your loved one.
Instead, make scheduling respite care a task that is observed from day one and taken as serious as scheduling the doctors appointment, shot, or exercise regimen. Surprisingly, for parents who are providing at home care to their own children this is one of the hardest things to do.
It has little to do with not trusting a properly screened and trained respite volunteer to take over the care of the child for a brief period of time, but instead it has a lot more to do with seeing their need for respite care as an admission of failure and a lack of true love or caring for their child.
Take Care of Yourself So You Can Take Care of Them
Nothing could be further from the truth, of course. Before considering any scheduling issue, caregivers must come to realize that they themselves matter as much as the person for whom they are providing the care.
If the caregiver loses the ability to smile, provide physical help, be emotionally strong, and overall assist the loved one with day to day life, then the quality of care will not only decline but there is a danger that anger and resentment may actually take over.
Avoiding this problem is imperative but it can only happen when the caregiver acknowledges that the world does not revolve around the loved one. Yes, she or he is important and loved, but not the center of the universe.
Being able to step back, recharge, and just have some time away from it all is the primary goal of temporary respite care and scheduling respite care immediately upon engaging in the kinship caregiver relationship will greatly heighten its effectiveness.