We all manage stress differently and some of us fail to manage stress and suffer physical symptoms because of that failure. Coping mechanisms should be something taught to us the same way that other skills for life are taught during high school or college. We can learn skills that will help us to reduce, prevent or to cope with stress as it presents at home, work or school.
Coping with stress can be a combination of using relaxation techniques to bring about stress relief, such as yoga, deep breathing or aromatherapy; and knowing when to seek professional guidance.
If we fail to cope with stress and let stress go unchecked we can expect to have damage to our health or relationships at work or personal relationships as a result of stress that is not controlled or managed properly. Stress can have many negative aspects that we need to understand and protect ourselves against. This requires that we recognize not only when we are under stress but what those stress triggers are that cause us to undergo stressful times.
One way to cope is to plan strategies to prevent or avoid those things that have caused stress in the past. Avoiding stress may include having the ability to say “no” to personal and professional added responsibilities over an above what is normally expected of us, and by avoiding those individuals who tend to stress us out and by taking control of the environment in which we live, work and if applicable go to school.
If hearing about terrible news stresses us out we can avoid reading the newspapers or turn off the news on the TV. In relationships we can avoid those topics that usually start arguments. We can also rearrange daily tasks or delegate responsibilities so that our “to-do list” doesn’t stress us out.
Let Feelings Out
Learn how to express your feelings, and be willing to compromise. Sometimes it requires that we learn how to be more assertive about saying “no”. Incorporate fun and relaxation into your daily routine, practice saying “no” so that you don’t over-commit yourself of your time or abilities, of the tasks that you do accept make sure that you prioritize the tasks that you do accept, when possible break down these tasks into smaller projects and then reward yourself for completing each smaller segment and lastly, learn how to delegate responsibility and supervise so that you are not stressing over whether or not it was done right.
Give Up Unreasonable Control
You can also learn how to accept things that you cannot change by trying not to control those things that are not in your control. Look for the positive in all things. Share how you feel with others. Practice the art of forgiveness. Anger and resentment will only harden you and create negative energy that binds you to stress.
Learn how to adapt to your environment and accept the things that are not in your control to change. If you can adapt by changing your expectations or by changing the negative into positive you may be able to manage the stress better. When possible adjust your standard when doing so reduces stress without giving up your moral believes. Focus on the positives, look at the big picture when dealing with problems and try to put yourself in someone else’s shoes.