Do you feel like your life could be happier? A better tomorrow could start with something as simple as your attitude.
Our perspectives have a huge effect on our overall level of happiness. They can affect our success as well.
“The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.” ― Douglas Adams
Over time, attitudes become habitual. Because of this, they can take a bit of effort to change, but such work is well worth your time.
Try these techniques to bring greater happiness and success into your life:
1. Gratitude. Start each day by making a mental list of things you’re thankful for. You can do this while you’re lying in bed just before you get up, in the shower, or while driving to work. This simple mental exercise will adjust your focus to the good things that you already have.
2. Love life, not stuff. Do you feel that having more possessions will make you happy? What usually happens is that, after you acquire something, it never seems to mean as much to you as you thought it would. After the newness wears off, you’re back to wanting some more new stuff! So the joy in most new possessions is temporary, at best, and leads to more “wanting.”
• The quality of your life itself is what will bring you the most happiness, not the quantity or quality of your stuff.
• Spend some time each day doing what you love.
• Build meaningful relationships that uplift you.
• Take action to create a life filled with what truly means the most to you.
3. Be patient. Our society has trained us to be in a hurry and expect immediate gratification. However, some of the great things in life take time to bring to fruition.
• Enjoy the process of creating the life you desire. Each day will bring you one step closer. Being impatient tends to push your goals farther away.
4. Believe in yourself. Life is much more pleasant when you have faith in yourself. Remember: You’ve already done things that are much more difficult than just about anything you may still wish to accomplish. So you know you can achieve your future plans.
• Consider learning to walk. How many times does a baby fall before they finally can stand up unassisted, let alone walk? And we keep learning more over time. Even a 10-year old doesn’t walk as well as a 30-year old. It takes many years of practice.
• How many times are you willing to fall down and get back up now? When you believe in yourself and expect success, you’re more likely to succeed. Your upbeat attitude will lead you to seek solutions to your challenges until you reach your goal.
5. Sometimes being smart is sufficient. We often believe that everything worthwhile requires a lot of work. However, many times, approaching challenges by working smart instead of working hard can save a lot of time and grief.
• Sit down and reflect on your situation from the perspective that there’s a simple solution to each challenge. You might be surprised how clever you can be if you make an effort to find an easy but satisfactory solution.
6. There’s no such thing as failure. Each time your plans fall short, analyze where they went wrong, learn from the experience, and continue moving forward.
• When you “fail,” all you’ve really done is discovered an ineffective way of trying to do something. That’s all. The knowledge gained only makes you more capable in the future.
Adjusting your attitude and making the changes permanent will take some work, but this effort pays off. Your attitude affects your perspective, what you notice, and what you fail to notice.
So by adjusting your attitude, you can shift your whole reality.
“Some people see the glass half full. Others see it half empty. I see a glass that’s twice as big as it needs to be.” ― George Carlin
Examine the attitudes you already hold that may be limiting your life and happiness. What perspectives and beliefs would serve you better?
Use the above ideas to start the process of adjusting those ineffective attitudes today for a happier tomorrow.
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